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Introducing a New Partner and Establishing Boundaries With a Co-Parent

Tuesday, June 08, 2021

When beginning a new relationship after a divorce with a co-parent, not everyone agrees with you beginning a new relationship. This can cause undue stress to you, your new partner, and your relationship with your child. Placing boundaries and procedures in place may be necessary to help everyone involved transition into a new status quo.

The end of a relationship, especially one that results in a child, causes pain to all parties. While everyone prefers co-parents put their pain aside to do what's best, this is not always the case.

Protect Yourself, Your Children, and Your New Partner

The introduction of a new partner may lead to emotionally compromised actions. This behavior ranges from inappropriate to violent. For this reason, many individuals consult their attorneys to determine what protocols to put in place. 

  • Establish boundaries: Establish what can be discussed, what behavior is acceptable in face-to-face situations, and how contact will be made between co-parents. Written communication is generally a better option as it is asynchronous and can serve as a record. Considering boundaries, what is and isn't appropriate, can help minimize misunderstandings and conflict.
  • Have a court order put into place determining custody: With boundaries, a co-parent might threaten to stop allowing visitation or threaten to move in response.  It will benefit and your child to have a court-mandated custody order to cement procedures for visitations, holidays, summer vacations, and other logistics in place. This minimizes the ability for a co-parent to retaliate or react irresponsibly. 
  • Consider parallel parenting: If a co-parent does not honor the boundaries set in place, parallel parenting gives autonomy to individual parents while minimizing communication. Ultimately, this is put in place in the interest of the child's welfare as it is intended to prevent conflict between parents in front of the child. This option further minimizes opportunities for inappropriate behavior. 
  • Consider if a restraining order is necessary: There are some scenarios when a co-parent cannot cope with the idea of the original relationship ending and, as a result, react aggressively. If you feel you and/or your new partner do not feel safe, a restraining order protects your household.

Reach Out for Help 

The sooner you put boundaries and procedures into place, the better. Having firm boundaries and a plan leads to less stress for you, your new partner, and your children.  

Don't hesitate to contact us for all of your legal needs. We want to ensure protection for you and your family during this transition. For more information on co-parenting, divorce, and child custody issues, please visit our blog.

Cancel Culture Increases the Necessity of Discretion in High Profile Divorces

Tuesday, June 08, 2021

Divorces are always complicated. They become even more so when you have acquired and maintained significant assets and/or established businesses during the course of your marriage. Image protection is the key to your future. Further, when television and movie stars divorce, they choose to keep certain aspects of their separation private. For example, details of child support and custody. You don't have to be a well-known star to have the same options they do when it comes to your privacy in legal matters. You just need the right support to avoid cancel culture.

High-Profile Divorces and Cancel Culture

Each divorce is different and should be treated as so. High net worth divorces will play out in public. Your assets are as unique as your relationship was and the details of your separation can make or break your businesses and/or public life.

The current trend of cancel culture is currently dominating our media. Cancel culture refers to the tendency the public has to band together to kick someone out of the public sphere for something that they have done or in response to a cause they have supported. 

Any public mention of adultery, battery, dishonesty, and lying that may have occurred within your marriage will not only negatively affect your children's or your former spouse's reputations, but can also be detrimental to your career and the success of your business. For example, a business may back out of a contract after reading about accusations of adultery.  

Cancellation causes fear for someone with a high-profile business. Indeed, you need to regain control over your reputation to ensure your further success.

Avoid Cancel Culture

Unfortunately, we are all judged and tried by our communities for the things that we do, whether we are guilty or innocent of any accusations. We have all done things that we regret, but our entire livelihoods should not be canceled for a single mistake. Our personal lives are personal

An aggressive and knowledgeable family attorney with an eye for discretion can help you keep your most personal information secure. Alleviate your anxiety and dampen your apprehension with the best protection available.

Conclusion

Contact our family attorneys at Jamra & Jamra L.L.P. for discretion and effective representation in Beverly Hills. Our tailored approach keeps you out of the spotlight and helps you avoid the cancel culture. Give us a call at 310-278-9001 to schedule an initial brainstorming session concerning your case.

Different Ways to Determine Child Custody Issues

Tuesday, June 08, 2021

There is no "one size fits all" for resolving child custody issues. At the foundation of every custody case, the law will always look to what is in the best interest of the children. Some parents may be able to agree on what that means for their family. They may agree where the children will live and who will have legal custody to make decisions about education and health. In these cases, the expense and time of litigation may not make sense. There may be other more effective ways to reach a resolution like mediation or a collaborative approach.

In other cases, the two parents may find it difficult to agree on anything. There may be one controlling adult who makes outlandish demands on the other parent. This can be especially frustrating. In situations like these, it might be best to litigate the case before a judge. However, because litigation can be a costly and lengthy process, it is best to consult an experienced family attorney to discuss your legal options. Our attorneys at Jamra & Jamra have extensive experience and are strong negotiators. They will help you make the right decision for your situation.  

Child Custody Options in California

There are several options to resolve a custody dispute in California. These include: (1) mediation, (2) collaboration, and (3) litigation.

Mediation

Mediation is when a mediator facilitates the child custody discussion. The mediator will always be a neutral party. They can offer insightful information and suggestions. However, a mediator will not advocate for your particular custody rights. If you are thinking about mediation, it is important to visit an experienced attorney so that you can know your protections as a parent.  Once an agreement is made, it may be harder to re-visit those agreements in the future.  

Collaborative Law

Collaborative law, like mediation, empowers the parties to reach an agreement. However, the major difference between mediation and collaboration, is that collaboration has an entire team working towards one common goal. This approach is more often used in divorce where child custody is one aspect of the divorce. The team may include two collaboratively trained lawyers, two divorce coaches, and one financial specialist. There may also be a child specialist or tax attorney.

Litigation

In some cases, mediation or collaboration is not an option. You want to protect your rights as a parent and protect your children as well. Going to court, gives the judge the power to decide what is in the best interest of the children, according to the law. Instead of having the parties decide, each parent submits evidence to show the judge what they believe is in the child's best interest. However, the judge will ultimately make a decision based on the evidence submitted by both parties.

Conclusion

If you would like to speak about your options for child custody, there are many ways to get to the result you want. Our experienced attorneys will sit down with you to discuss your particular situation, what the law allows, and the best way to get you there. We invite you to contact us to schedule a consultation.