Family Law Blog

Why Domestic Violence Victims Stay

Friday, February 16, 2018

People who deal with domestic violence are victims. Often, they live their lives in fear. Fear of the person who is supposed to love them the most. Fear of the unknown. Fear of leaving.

If you have never been a victim of domestic violence, you have no idea. Most people just think that they should leave. However, most of the time they don't and here are some reasons why.

Love. Most of the time, victims of domestic violence still love the person who is hurting them. They might not love them much at the moment, but they can easily recall why they loved them before!

Family. Often, there is a family involved, with children. Victims may stay because they don't want to break up their family. While some people leave because they fear for their children's lives, others don't want them to miss out on a relationship with both of their parents.

Money. Money is often a controlling factor when it comes to domestic violence. One partner may have all of the money so the victim has nothing to use to try to get away. They don't have any money to start a new life (or even get on the subway to run away).

Isolation. Most victims of domestic violence push their friends away so that they don't know what is going on. By the time that they want to run, they have no one to turn to. There is no one left to help them get away.

Shame. Many victims feel complete shame. They don't want others to know that they were so weak and were abused. For this reason, it is easier to stay with someone who hurts them than it is to walk away.

However, it doesn't have to be this way. Victims of domestic violence are stronger than they even imagine. They can leave, as long as they have help and support. If you are a victim, we will help you get out of your situation so that you can have a better life. Be sure to contact us for all of your legal needs.