Family Law Blog

How to Manage Anger during a Divorce

Sunday, May 10, 2015

Anger can be a powerful emotion, but during a divorce, its effects are very often detrimental to your interests. It is however, one of the most common emotions that people feel, and it is likely that you will struggle with these feelings during your divorce.

Understand that anger is a natural part of the grieving process during a divorce. Try not to stifle it. Failing to deal with your feelings can only increase the risk of depression, and anxiety.

It's normal for you to feel angry at this point in time, so don't fight it. It is important to not let anger consume you, and color your decision-making. Some of the worst decisions made during the divorce are those that are made while angry.

Try to find safe ways of venting your anger. Writing down your thoughts in a journal is good way of doing so. If you can find a close friend in whom you can confide, do so. However, don't take to social media to vent against your soon-to-be ex-spouse. This is one of the worst things that you can do while angry, and could possibly wreck your divorce case.

Get regular physical exercise. Being physically active can help you vent some of your frustrations in a healthy manner. Join an aerobics club, enroll in kickboxing, or martial arts class, and look for activities that help you deal with unexpressed anger.

Don't worry about keeping up a perfect façade. You may want people to believe that the divorce is not affecting you at all, and that you're taking it all in your stride, while seething inside. This is an unhealthy attitude to have. Letting people know that you are feeling the way you do can help you manage anger in a healthy manner.