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Five Ways to Get Over the Ex

Thursday, May 02, 2019

So, the person you spent months or years with ended up not being right for you. Bummer. Perhaps they broke your heart, or you just couldn't handle some of their behaviors. Divorcing someone you were in a relationship with is never fun, but eventually, you have to move on in life. You might be asking yourself how to do such a thing when your life feels like it has been turned upside down. So, here is a list of five ways to move on after a divorce!

1. Do all of the things that you didn't when you were with the ex. They didn't like the beach? Well, it's time for a beach day! They hated Italian food? On tonight's menu are Zuppa and lasagne! Enjoy all of the little things you had to give up to make your ex-partner happy. 

2. Date. Yes I know, it's probably the last thing you want to do. Unless you plan to stay single forever then you need to get back in the saddle. Hopefully, you won't have to kiss too many frogs to find your prince or princess. 

3. Move somewhere you always have wanted to live. If there is nothing tying you to your current location, then why stay there? Maybe you moved to that city to be near your now ex, but really you want to live somewhere warmer, colder or less expensive? By all means, do it! 

4. Reconnect with friends and family. Everyone knows that a marriage takes up a lot of your time, and that is okay. Other relationships may be put on the back burner during your marriage but now as a single person, you can rekindle those relationships. Haven't seen grandma in a while? Shame on you! Get over there as soon as possible!

5. Go out as a party of one and become comfortable with your own company. When was the last time you went to a movie by yourself? Never? How about going to the gym or a concert sans spouse? It is time to get out there and enjoy yourself, by yourself. This is important, as it will help you become more comfortable with who you are as a person and you may develop interests you never knew you had!

Divorce is definitely not fun, there's no doubt about that. Sooner or later it's time to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back out into the world. Hopefully, these five suggestions will help you do just that. Feel free to contact us for further help with your separation and divorce.