Family Law Blog

Why It's Better to Get Divorced Than Stay in a Bad Marriage

Monday, March 16, 2015

Sometimes, parents delay or postpone divorce, because they don’t want the negative impact of the divorce on their children. While there's no denying that divorce does have some impact on children, the impact may be more negative, if the parents continue to stay together in a hostile marriage.

You may believe that you're doing what’s best for your children by staying together with your spouse even though you're not in love with him or her anymore. However, you may want to take a hard look at your marriage, and see whether your behavior with your spouse and continuous exposure to it, is affecting your children in the long run.

There are certain advantages to a divorce that can actually mitigate any negative fallout from the divorce. For instance, when parents cooperate with each other, they can work to minimize the negative impact of divorce. There is a transition period that is traumatic for the child. However, things do tend to settle down after a few months, and a child benefits from having parents who are separated from each other, but are still respectful to each other.

Sure, children will have two separate homes when they are in a divorced family as opposed to an intact family, but there is no constant arguing, yelling or screaming in those homes.

Many people, who get a divorce, believe that it was the best decision for them. If you're constantly stressed, depressed, or traumatized over your marriage, consider what kind of effect that is having on the kids.

Making the decision to divorce is never an easy one. For advice on protecting your interests and the interests of the children in your divorce, speak to a San Jose divorce lawyer.