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Children's Issues During a Divorce: Smooth Visitation "Hand-Offs"

Friday, November 08, 2019

In the process of divorcing, children from the marriage often find their time split between two households. Often, one parent stays in the home while the other finds a new residence. Thus, for visitation to take place, a "hand-off" must occur. To ensure a smooth transition, divorcing parents need to set a routine that is beneficial to all.

Neutral Location 

The most natural location for the pick-up and return of a child is his regular home. Unfortunately, heightened emotions can necessitate a more neutral venue. In this case, it is often helpful to select a child-friendly place for the "hand-off". For example, consider a park with a playground is an option. If you believe your safety is at risk with your former partner, you can choose to make a police station the location for handing off your children.

Brief Transition

Keep the transition brief and amicable. Indeed, behave in an adult manner and avoid confrontation. Above all, don't take a new love interest with you when you pick up or return a child. Chances are, emotions are high and a newcomer's presence is not welcomed by the other parent, or more importantly, by the child.

Communication

Always communicate with your child about the details of a "hand-off". Knowledge empowers children and is reassuring. Let the child know when he is going and for how long. Also, let him take a couple of favorite things with him for the hand-off. Make it as simple for your child as possible. Be positive when he leaves for the visit and when he returns. Never "drill" your child about his visit with the other parent as this might make him reluctant to be "handed off" in the future.

Communicate with your former partner regularly regarding visits. Ask for cooperation and patience during the transition to and from visits. Your children deserve positive collaboration, especially during a divorce.

Conclusion

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